Speed Tables
Updated: Mar 6, 2023
Hello Friends,
We have all been there in our life, one time or another, when we notice a red flag in a relationship, and choose not to act on it or dismiss it. It’s that speed bump, once noticed, we go over slowly, at first. After many years, the speed bumps turn into speed tables. Speed tables are a traffic calming device that are designed to slow down vehicles in areas where pedestrian safety is a concern. It is a raised platform that spans across the width of the entire width of the road and typically has a flat top surface. The height of the speed table varies, but it is usually around 3-4 inches high. Speed bumps are for our safety. Imagine that. For our safety. In life, we have this gut feeling that something is not right, but we forge straight ahead which eventually causes damage to our mind, soul and body.
Whether you are dealing with spiritual, emotional, physical or mental abuse, covert or overt narcissism, we need to name it and see it for what it is. The problem is that these toxic behaviors over time cause low self esteem, anxiety, depression, trust issues, spiritual confusion and trauma, physical symptoms and emotional detachment. Emotional and spiritual abuse can cause an individual to become detached and disconnected from their own feelings and needs. You become numb and isolated, so your reaction becomes a non-reaction and the pattern continues.
When You Are Real You Can Heal came out of my personal journey of putting on a mask, and faking it until you make it. I was praying, reading my bible and living in this suspended belief that one day health and wholeness in my relationship would be mine. It was only when I got real, looked realistically at the way I had been living, that I dared against all odds to start making my way out. Towards freedom. Listening to that still small voice beckoning and leading me towards healing. Let's name the abuse, build healthy safe spaces for ourselves and let's walk together towards our authentic selves.
I have no certificates, no credentials, just experience. I believe if we are real, we can begin to heal together.
love, barb